WHAT IS EXPECTED OF A CHRISTIAN?
Now, to Christians out there, the thought still
fills the mind, who is that man or woman that will be my life partner? The
scripture still maintain what is written.
“There is a way which seemed right unto a man, but the end thereof are
the ways of death” (Proverbs 14:12). This true statement
from the scripture read by many but ignored by them on many occasion. It is of
importance of to note, that nobody is expected to answer the above question for
another person. No pastor or priest is expected to answer the question for any
his members. Only God can give the answer to seekers.
Unfortunately,
some church leaders, either ignorantly or deliberately, match couples with
their false revelations and visions. Many young couples have been put in
trouble because of this sort of deceit by fake ministers who want to cheap
popularity into their followers. The word of God, however, has this to say: Ask, and it shall be given to you; seek, and
you shall find; knock, and it shall be open unto you; for everyone that askedshall
receive; and he that seek, finds; and to him that knocked it shall be opened (Matthew
7:7-8)
In looking for a
life partner, therefore, you should depend fully on God and hope on him to
reveal to you who your true partner will be. As a Christian, your prayer life
should be adjusted in such a way that more time is made available for prayers.
For instance, you are the type that prays once a day, it is advisable that,
when the thought of a life partner comes to your mind, you the number of times
you pray. It is wonderful to realize that some proverbs made by our ancestors on
some issues are very correct. For instance, one of such proverbs is that a man
or woman cannot say that he or she is enjoying or suffering until after
marriage. I have discovered that under normal circumstances, the rise or fall
of any person depends on the package unfolded in his or her home after
marriage.
Many
people who ordinarily would have been great in their lifetime on earth have not
succeeded due to the problem they have faced since they got married to their
partners. Again, our Lord Jesus Christ made this following statement, which I
usually meditate upon for a long time whenever I read it, “And a man’s foes shall be they of
his own household” (Matthew 10:36).
Events
around us have proved this to correct. As the possible rise or fall of any
person depends on his or her marriage, it is advisable that Christians should
not just rush into marriage as their heathen counterparts. No length of time
you used to search for your life partner is a waste. This is because one must
make plans before taking such an important action as marriage, which does not
allow for a second chance.
Perhaps
one can estimate that over sixty per cent of Christian couples are living with
wrong partners. They are just patching up in order not to ridicule their
Christian image, or are being console by the fruit of their marriage, namely
children. Sometimes, those who cannot hold themselves together get separated or
divorced, and become backsliders.
Certainly,
the fact that a husband and wife are having children is no proof that they are
matched according to God’s will. After all, people who commits fornication can
have children the act, yet fornication is a great sin against God. Some people
actually hold the childish view that anything that comes their way after
prayers is the will of God for them. If you believe that any man or woman that
comes your way after marriage is the will of God for you, remember that after
Christ’s prayer and fasting for forty days and forty nights, Satan presented
some apparently good suggestion to him, which were never the will of God for
him, and he rejected them all. (Matthew 4:1-10)
Therefore,
you must seek the will of God for you. You should realize the bible’s promises
for those who live according to the word of God. You cannot hold contrary view
and be expecting the promises.
The scripture maintains that: “who so finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtained favor of the
lord” (Proverbs 18:22)
It important to note the phrase, “obtain the favor
of the Lord”. This shows that the man must have seeking the face of God and his
favor to show him a wife. When the favor is obtained, he then finds a wife and
it becomes a good thing. The result would be the result if any one fails to
seek the will of God.
While
examining this scripture verse, you will discover also that under the divine
marriage arrangement, men are expected to seek and find a wife, not a woman
looking for a husband. From the very beginning, this system has been
maintained. The first man, Adam woke up to find his wife, Eve (Genesis 2:21-22).
Abraham sent his servant to go and look for a wife for his soon, Isaac (Genesis
24). Jacob also sought his wife.
As
each of the scriptures refers to a woman, but a man who is expected to find a
wife, women should be careful to know how to direct their prayers while seeking
the face of God to get married. Sometimes, some circumstances or other seems to
force a woman to look for a husband through indirect approaches.
A
Christian should not engage in such practice, for it tends to backfire in due
time. It is husbands who should look for wives, not wives looking for husbands.
The
truth of the matter is that to seek the face of God in marriage is not easy,
for Satan the devil is contending to make sure that one gets a wrong partner.
He is never happy seeing happy family. I therefore recommend fasting and
praying in this regard. This is because marriage is about most important
venture a Christian would undertake, especially as divorce or polygamy is not
permitted to a Christian. Indeed, some Christians have been known to have
prayed for five years before knowing the will of God regarding their future
life partner. Both women and men are expected to pray for life partners, but a
man is expected to make the actual approach. In some cases, some women have
received revelation about their life partners before the revelation would go to
the man. Under such a situation, the woman should continue to pray till the man
gets message from God.
Nevertheless,
it must be observed that adopting wrong approach to marriage did not start in
our present generation. For instance, the Jews in Old Testament times received
more than they bargained for in wrong marriage. As we find in the Scriptures,
they have confronted Moses to give them a way out of difficult marriages, and
Moses had found it a difficult problem to solve. He later allowed them to have
a law, which permitted a man to write a bill of divorce in order to put away
their wives (Mark 10:2-6).
When
Christ was with them, their heart was still condemning them, and they wanted to
hear his view on the question. But unfortunately for them, they received
unexpected answer from our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore it is important to read
through the scriptureto determine what the attitude of a serious Christian
should be in looking for a life partner.
And the Pharisees came to him, and asked
him, is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? Tempting him. And he answered
and said to them, what did Moses command you? And they said, Moses suffered us
to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and
said unto them,for the hardness of your heart, he wrote you this precept. God
made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and
mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh, so then they
are no more twain, but one flesh. What God hath joined together, let no man put
asunder? And in the house, his disciples asked him of the same matter. And he
said unto them, whosoever shall put his wife away, and marry another, commits
adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married
to another, she commits adultery. (Mark10:2-12).
Up next "part 3 of this life partner guide" Don't miss it!................
No comments:
Post a Comment